You may have noticed that I wrote everyday in October and have only posted a few times in November. In fact it has been 8 days since my last post.
I have been with family. Which is very important to me. On November 3rd I lost an Aunt. And on November 16th I lost another aunt (barely two weeks apart). The one aunt had suffered with her health for several months and God saw fit to heal her by taking her home to be with him. The other had been declining for a few years and had recently been taken to a nursing home. She no longer knew the family. So, God in his mercy, also saw fit to take her home where she too is now healed.
I find the way we process grief interesting. Some people process by celebrating the joy they had in the relationship with the one they have lost, others mourn their loss and cry. Some find comfort in humor. But almost everyone finds solace in the company of others.
Companionship is something we all need. It is sad to me that we sometimes wait until we have lost someone close to us to realize that connection is vital. We somehow think that we have time. But we don’t. Life is short and people are too important to wait for the visits.
Growing up my cousins and I were together a lot. We spent time in each other’s homes, we celebrated birthdays together. We played together. Even when I started dating my now husband we still hung out with my cousins. One of them and Rocky shared a birthday so we would get together to celebrate. We had many late night game nights. We have a lot of wonderful memories. I am thankful for those memories, but I am more thankful for the opportunities to connect with my family.
After we were married, jobs took us away and over time we didn’t see my cousins as much. Even though we still felt close to them, our time spent with them was limited by distance and busyness. We moved back home in 2012 and had a few times of celebration, but we weren’t together nearly enough. Then, we lost my Aunt. Connection became more important than ever.
The week she passed away we were with my cousins nearly every night. They were at our house or we were at theirs. Until midnight most nights. It was good to share memories and just comfort one another. It made me realize that life is too short to not spend time with family.
During the visitation and funeral for the one Aunt, we met (re-met) one of my cousins and two of his children. I had not seen them since the seventies; Rocky had never met them. It was a great time reconnecting. And again, I was reminded that family is more important than our busyness. This past weekend, my other Aunt, their grandmother, passed away. And we once again find ourselves getting ready to lay a loved one to rest.
The cycle of life goes on. God in his mercy helps us part with dear loved ones. Family gathers around to comfort one another and we connect and realize how important we are to each other. And if we don’t forget this lesson, we’ll make sure we find time to meet for fellowship and break bread together just because we can.
Connecting in Grace,
Teresa (Sadie Grace)